Second Trimester!

It’s the end of the second trimester and I’m on the homestretch! Whoop whoop!

I can’t lie second trimester wasn’t bad at all in terms of how I felt. Naturally it came with it’s on set of symptoms but on a whole I felt good.

Without further ado let’s get straight to the symptoms of second trimester.

Tender Nipples

This was a new symptom that I hadn’t experienced in any of my previous pregnancies. They didn’t feel sore if they were untouched but when they were accidentally knocked or stepped on mainly by Rayan whilst in bed, my goodness! They were painful. Like most women I hate wearing a bra to bed, in fact if I’m honest I hate wearing a bra full stop but there was this one time I was putting Naeem to bed and when he grabbed the quilt to pull over himself he accidentally grabbed my nipples along with it. Boy did I scream to high heavens.

Yeast infection

The dreaded yeast infection aka thrush came back like ‘hey you missed me?’ There’s not much to say on this except how much I hate having it but I’ve come to terms with it being a part of my pregnancy journey. I’ve been prescribed treatment for it so fingers crossed that will be the end (here’s to hoping)

Swollen Feet

Very often usually by the end of the day my feet would swell like pumped chicken breast. Fortunately they don’t get painful they just don’t look very appealing. Especially in the recent heatwave we’ve had and having to wear sandals. It’s not been pretty 😂

Baby Kicks

During this trimester my baby has really come alive. Kicking the hell out of me from the inside naughty baby. You know I love it really lol. The kicks are a pleasant symptom of the second trimester and are very reassuring so keep kicking baby but maybe a little gentler.

I think that’s about it symptoms wise, I know this a short blog but in all honesty second trimester has been good to me and I’m so grateful. I’ve had a right spring in my step and long may it last! Roll on third trimester!

First Trimester…

…is finally over and boy am I glad to see the back of it.

I mean it wasn’t as bad as my symptoms with Rayan but not a breeze like Naeem’s.

Implantation cramping

So let’s start with the symptoms so if you read my previous post you’ll know that I found out I was pregnant on 16 February 2019. A few days before that I experienced some quite intense cramping, I was literally cradling myself in bed. I now know that it wasn’t my period coming it was in actual fact implantation. So that was the first symptom but I only realised after the fact.

Nausea

So now that I was aware that I was pregnant, you know the mind starts triggering all these things you weren’t feeling two minutes before the test but all of a sudden you see two lines and you start to feel everything? Yeh well cue my second symptom, nausea! My goodness I was so nauseated I felt like I couldn’t function properly, I’d need to curl up in a ball and wish it away. I was chewing on raw ginger to try and settle my stomach and bought wrist bands. I absolutely hated car journeys it was so bad that I think I actually threw up after a couple Uber trips.

Emotional Wreck

My third symptom, I was really emotional found myself crying a lot. My friend had a bridal brunch, asking us to be her bridesmaids. She presented us with these amazing boxes full of treats and a book which she had written personalised notes for each of us. My goodness, that set me right off. I really did feel low at the beginning and if I’m going to be completely honest, looking back now I realise that I was probably going through antenatal depression at the time. I’m just glad that I’ve come out of it and I feel amazing now.

Bad Skin

My fourth symptom which I get in every single pregnancy and I absolutely hate, is bad skin! My face is awful, it’s full of spots and blemishes and just simply isn’t smooth. I cannot stand this symptom but it definitely is my pregnancy telltale sign.

Fatigue

And last but not least is fatigue, I experienced a bit of tiredness not as much as my previous two pregnancies but it was fairly noticeable. I’m not usually one to have a day time nap but during pregnancy it’s a necessity. I even caught myself dozing off in front of my computer sometimes, shhhh don’t tell my boss lol.

So there we have it my first trimester symptoms. I’d say out of all my three pregnancies I’d rank this one in the middle not awful but not quite amazing either.

Oh and by the way I had my 12 weeks scan and baby is perfect Alhumdulilah. So see you in my next trimester update!

Wait what baby number 3?

Honestly, I don’t know what to say or where to start but yeh we’re having another baby!

Let me start at the beginning, well not the beginning beginning if you know what I mean but to the point where I found out I was growing another human.

February 16th I remember because it was two days after Valentine’s Day. I sat to myself thinking hang on a minute I don’t recall having a period in the new building at work. See I don’t really track my menstrual cycle but somehow this inner voice knows when to tell me “honey you’re late”. At work we recently moved from one building to another so I thought I’d message a few of my colleagues to ask if they recall when exactly we moved. One said roughly four weeks ago and the other came with a specific date 14 January 2019.

At that point something inside me just knew the seed had been planted. Reason being my last period was about a week before we left the old building and as much as I don’t track I just know if I haven’t heard my inner voice then I know I’m not late. But this time I heard her loud and clear.

I started to go into panic mode because although I’ve made no secret about wanting more, I simply wasn’t ready yet. The two that I have are more than enough for now. I was hoping I could focus on them until they started school and other areas of our personal life were in order. However when God says be there ain’t nothing stopping it from happening, I mean Rayan’s pregnancy was testimony to that as I was on the coil.

Anyway where was I? Oh yes February 16th I was on my way to my friend’s house so on my way I picked up two pregnancy tests from the pound shop, I’ve never in my life spent more than a pound on a test, all I need to know is am I pregnant or not and I find the Poundland ones detect pregnancies pretty early.

So when I got to my friend’s I went to the loo and peed on the stick. I bought two types the strip ones and the one with the plastic casing. I started with the strip one, out of nerves I peed all over the stick to the point it voided the test. So I composed myself and started again with the faux fancy one with the pink and white case. It took some time to show but I could swear I could see a faint line forming. I’ve never said “f*ck my life” so many times in quick succession ever. I showed my friend the stick in utter shock and she was like “nah nah you’re not, don’t worry you’re not”, I was like look “there’s a faint line”. I was convinced I was and just put the stick in the box and the box in my bag.

I was in a daze, kept saying what am I going to do repeatedly, I was still in utter shock. So many things were going through my mind at the time. I didn’t feel like this was the right time to bring another child into the current mix but hey I trust that God would guide me in any case and all will be ok in the end.

After about 15 minutes something said to look at the test again and there it was the undoubtable second line.

#MyAquaphor challenge!

Hi guys! So this post is sponsored by the dermatological skincare brand Eucerin and I’ve been challenged by Britmums to share how I use Aquaphor in my family’s skincare routine.

• Eucerin Aquaphor Soothing Skin Balm gives dry to very dry, cracked and irritated skin the SOS care it needs

• Formulated with only seven ingredients, Aquaphor is gentle enough to be used on highly irritated skin as well as on sensitive baby skin and also in the nappy area

• Eucerin Aquaphor Soothing Skin Balm protects the skin by creating a breathable protective barrier, allowing oxygen and water vapor to circulate to and from the skin, allowing skin to ‘breathe’ and strengthen its natural barrier function

• The Eucerin Aquaphor formula was first introduced in the US market in 1925 and has been a household staple ever since – long trusted for its effectiveness in repairing a wide range of skin SOS cases

So first and foremost I always make sure I have my Aquaphor in my bag. This is so I always have it to hand while I’m out.

My most frequent use of Aquaphor is to moisturise my hands. After washing my hands it tends to get dry especially in the corners between my fingers.

I also love using it as a lip balm, in this cold weather my lips tend to get chapped so Aquaphor has been great in keeping them smooth.

Sometimes when I’m in a rush out the door I notice that I’ve missed a spot on my foot but with Aquaphor never to far from me I’m able to get rid of the dry patch as easy as 1,2,3.

When at home I sometimes use it on the boys during a nappy change and so far it’s been good.

Last but no lease hubby usually grabs the closest thing to him when he jumps out the shower but I’ve noticed lately he’s been asking to use Aquaphor specifically.

So those are the ways we use Aquaphor in our household. We’ve only been using it a short while but it’ll definitely be staying for a long time. Although it’s only a 45ml tube, a little goes a long way.

Thank you Britmums and Eucerine for sending us this product, it’s been a pleasure testing it out!

Thanks for reading!

Ria xx

This post is an entry for the BritMums #MyAquaphor Challenge, sponsored by Eucerin. Discover the benefits of Eucerin https://www.eucerin.co.uk/products/aquaphor/soothing-skin-balm-45ml

Meet The Mummy Journey… Guest Post!

Hi Everyone! I’m Amy, I’m 25 and live in Worcester with my beautiful daughter Eva, my boyfriend Sean and our cat Bella. I am so happy to be doing a guest post on Ria’s blog and to meet some new readers! I hope you all enjoy my Mum Tag! 

 

1. How old were you when you had your first child?

Eva is my first child and I had her when I was 25. 


2. What was the hardest thing about being pregnant for 9 months?

I suffered quite badly with SPD during my pregnancy and this made it very uncomfortable to walk, get out of bed, out of cars etc. I also had quite bad heart burn towards the end which made sleeping very hard. Other then that I loved pregnancy! 


3. Can you think of any good things you enjoyed during those 9 months?

My Bump! I really miss my bump and those little kicks. It is the most amazing feeling knowing there’s a little baby inside. I also felt the most confident about my body that I had in a while. 


4. In your opinion, were all the things you heard about childbirth accurate or way off?

I’m going to sound crazy but I really enjoyed my labour. I’m one of those annoying people that got everything they had planned for and everything went amazingly well. I agree with the pain side of things and also the pain after but I was very lucky to experience such a great birth.

5. Would you have handled childbirth differently if you could re-do it?

No. My birth was amazing. I think I have quite a good pain threshold too which made things ‘seem’ a lot easier. Plus I was only in labour for 2 hours.. I think I kind of got away with it this time. 


6. What would be your advice for someone who is about to have a baby?

Enjoy every second because time really does fly! An remember when your going through your bad times(like no sleep) uou’ll look back on it in a few weeks’ time and think how the hell did I get through that? But you just do! You’ll be amazing! 


7. What has been the hardest thing about being a mum?

I think for me in the beginning was the sleep. I’m someone who needs my sleep otherwise I can’t function and I’m an awful person to be around (poor Sean). I also think the lifestyle change. You constantly have to think about someone else. Like you can’t just run to the shop to pick up some milk. 


8. What has been the most rewarding thing about being a mum?

Her smile, her laughs, just looking at how happy she is and thinking me and her daddy are contributing to that. 


9. What was the most surprising thing you discovered about being a mum?

How little sleep I can actually survive on! As I’ve mentioned above, I’m someone who really needs there sleep! However, I feel now I’ve turned a corner and I’m not so much like that anymore. I think I’ve just got over the fact I’m not going to have a lay in for at least another 18 years! 


10. What is the best memory you have involving your child?

There are so many! One that sticks out for me is when I went into Eva in the morning and as soon as I opened the door she shouted ‘mama’ for the first time. 


11. What was the most exciting milestone?

Definitely crawling as I thought Eva was never going to crawl and she’d found her way around by shuffling on her bum. When she crawled across the room for the first time I jumped for joy and cried.


12. What is the worst thing your child has ever done?

I’d say the worst thing she’s ever done was roll off the bed (half my fault) and she had a bruise under her eye. She did this when she was about 6 months. Also an explosive poo in the bath.. gross! 


13. What habit did you wish your child didn’t have?

Throwing everything on the floor! In her high chair food goes on the floor, In the living room everything that’s on the coffee table gets thrown on the floor. 


14. What habit of theirs makes you most proud?

The way she claps herself when she’s proud! It melts my heart. 


15. Do you share any similarities with your child (both Physical and Personality)?

How she scrumples her nose when she laughs or smiles – I used to do this when I was a child. 


16. Where would you like your child to be in 10 years?

As long as she’s happy and healthy I don’t mind. I would like her to be surrounded by a lovely group of friends and just be enjoying life. 


17. What is something that having a child has taught you?

Patience and to have a calmer attitude towards situations. When you have a child nothing ever goes the way you planned so I’ve realised patience is key and the calmer you are the calmer and more chilled your child will be. Everyone always says that Eva is so chilled and easy going and I think that’s because me and Sean are ( him more so than me) But this is a skill I’ve had to learn along the way. Having children is such a huge learning experience. 


18. Did you imagine that you’d be a mom at the age that you became a mom?

Yes I did. I’m the same age as my mum was when she had me and I always knew I wanted the same kind of age gap. Just because me and my mum are so close and she honestly is my best friend!


19. Describe your child in a single sentence?

The most cheekiest, beautiful little button. 


20. How have you changed as a person since becoming a mum?

I’m more aware of everything around me, I plan more whereas before I was kind of just an in the moment type of person and quite spontaneous. I’m a lot more calmer and yes I would say that I am a lot less selfish. Everything I do is now for that little girl instead of just myself. I think a lot of mum’s can relate to that one. 

 If you want to get to know me a little better then I’ll leave the links below to all my socials. 

Thank you all for reading and I hope you enjoyed having Amy on my blog! If you want to read my answers then head to https://lifeasweknowit.uk/

Have a good day! Ria xx

 

Amy‘s links

Blog: https:www.amummyjourney.wordpress.com

Instagram: https:www.instagram.com/amy_greaves1

Youtube: https:www.youtube.com/TheMummyJourney

 

bakerdays… Letterbox Cake!!

Have you ever received a cake through your letterbox? Yes the flap on the front of your door that the postman usually pushes your letters through. Well as strange and as exciting as it may seem, this is actually a real thing.

(letterbox cake)

bakerdays kindly gifted me with a cake for Rayan’s birthday. Now being the cake lover that I am, I was more excited by the concept of a letterbox cake.

(Rayan’s birthday)

The process was simple, all they needed was my flavour choice, design, this could be one from their website or a personalised one of choice for any event and my address. They send a sample and once satisfied the order is then processed. True to form a cake arrived in the post.

(sample design)

As promised the cake was moist and the design was exactly like the sample they sent me.

(moist cake slice)

It’s safe to say I’m a big fan of cake through the letterbox so if you have any kind of event, occasion, a reason to celebrate or just simply want to eat cake then definitely check out bakerdays, they even do dairy and gluten free cakes.

Postpartum Body Struggles!

Before I delve into this post I just want to note that this is my truth. I understand that we should love our bodies as they’ve done great things by housing and keeping our babies safe but sometimes our minds tell us something different. I am truly grateful that I’m able to bear children and the way I feel about my body does not take away from the love that I have for my kids. Now that I’ve gotten that out the way let’s get into it.

I have never felt this self conscious about my body as I do now since having my second child. It’s taking a lot to actually pen this on paper and publish it publicly. After Naeem, my first born, I dropped so much weight. My belly was flat, my thighs were small even my ‘family arm’ as my sisters and I call it, was looking trimmed. I was the smallest I had ever been in my adult life. I felt so yummy, I was oozing confidence, I actually loved that you couldn’t tell I had just given birth.

1 month postpartum (Naeem)

That feeling of euphoria had put me into a false sense of security. When I got pregnant with Rayan, although unplanned I was happy and grateful for my little miracle. Again in this pregnancy I hadn’t put on much weight I was literally all bump. I actually feel sexy when I’m pregnant lol.

9 months pregnant (Naeem)

Anyway, so I anticipated the big postpartum loss like I had with Naeem. I planned how this time I was going to maintain it and stay looking yummy for longer.

So again I lost some weight but I noticed it wasn’t as drastic as the first time but I was thinking I’m sure breastfeeding will sort this out like it did the last time and the lack of sleep. That was literally my weight loss secret, breastfeeding on demand and sleep deprivation. Only this time it wasn’t as effective. Then after a while I started noticing that I was looking more plump. I was putting on weight around my upper body and face, I started to develop a bulge around my midriff. To be honest I just felt completely yuck! The complete opposite to what I expected to happen, so you can imagine how unimpressed I am by this weight gain.

I don’t take as many pics anymore. So here’s another pic of me feeling sexy whilst pregnant (Rayan)

What was worse was I had zero motivation to do anything about it. Instead of trying to sign up to the gym and changing my eating habit I was looking on real self and researching doctors and procedures. My state of mind on how I viewed myself got so bad that I was willing to go under the knife to fix it because I just didn’t feel like me.

I’m not going to lie I still haven’t completely ruled out surgery but I have decided to actually put effort in getting my body right naturally. After seeing a very recent pic of myself I knew I need change Now! So I’ve signed up to slimming world and I lost 4lbs in my first week yay me! And I’m truly enjoying it, I’ve just bought myself a Fitbit too (DM me on insta if you want to challenge me) and I plan to start gyming. I have free membership at work so it’s just a matter of getting up and going. Although I have taken on Rugby as a sport.

Another thing I should have mentioned is that being overweight runs in my family, I did well to shrug it off for many years but I’ve recently felt like it’s all catching up with me it’s in my genes so I have to be careful not to let myself go too far otherwise I could spiral into obesity. Diabetes also runs in my family and I had it in both my pregnancies so really and truly not only am I doing this for aesthetics and to feel good about myself but it’s also to avoid chronic health issues. I also want to get my body right so when I decide to have another child I do not want to have to be going to the diabetic clinic every 1-2 weeks and having to manage the condition.

I know a lot of mothers feel the same and all I can say is I understand but if you want it as hard as it is you have to get up and do it, I’m testimony to that. I also know a lot of other people will probably be thinking I need to love myself, stop being insecure or allowing social media and celebrities to influence how I feel about myself, blah blah blah. This is genuinely not to do with social pressures but how I feel about myself, I want clothes to sit right on me, I don’t want a bulge or FUPA even if Beyoncé is loving hers kudos to her. I want to feel confident again being naked and in my own skin and the only way I will is by taking action which I have. It’s all good and well complaining about it but if I don’t do anything about it then It’s just going to stay like that.

For those mothers who do feel the same way I do, just know you’re not alone you can do it if you will it. What I’ll start doing is a slimming world weekly diary blog post for anyone that wants to join me on my journey. You can also follow my slimming world Instagram page for daily updates.

This post is a Mother Hen Club post you can find Mother Hen on instagram so head over and give them a follow. For more information click on the link https://expertpaservices.lpages.co/mother-hen-club/ xx