#MyAquaphor challenge!

Hi guys! So this post is sponsored by the dermatological skincare brand Eucerin and I’ve been challenged by Britmums to share how I use Aquaphor in my family’s skincare routine.

• Eucerin Aquaphor Soothing Skin Balm gives dry to very dry, cracked and irritated skin the SOS care it needs

• Formulated with only seven ingredients, Aquaphor is gentle enough to be used on highly irritated skin as well as on sensitive baby skin and also in the nappy area

• Eucerin Aquaphor Soothing Skin Balm protects the skin by creating a breathable protective barrier, allowing oxygen and water vapor to circulate to and from the skin, allowing skin to ‘breathe’ and strengthen its natural barrier function

• The Eucerin Aquaphor formula was first introduced in the US market in 1925 and has been a household staple ever since – long trusted for its effectiveness in repairing a wide range of skin SOS cases

So first and foremost I always make sure I have my Aquaphor in my bag. This is so I always have it to hand while I’m out.

My most frequent use of Aquaphor is to moisturise my hands. After washing my hands it tends to get dry especially in the corners between my fingers.

I also love using it as a lip balm, in this cold weather my lips tend to get chapped so Aquaphor has been great in keeping them smooth.

Sometimes when I’m in a rush out the door I notice that I’ve missed a spot on my foot but with Aquaphor never to far from me I’m able to get rid of the dry patch as easy as 1,2,3.

When at home I sometimes use it on the boys during a nappy change and so far it’s been good.

Last but no lease hubby usually grabs the closest thing to him when he jumps out the shower but I’ve noticed lately he’s been asking to use Aquaphor specifically.

So those are the ways we use Aquaphor in our household. We’ve only been using it a short while but it’ll definitely be staying for a long time. Although it’s only a 45ml tube, a little goes a long way.

Thank you Britmums and Eucerine for sending us this product, it’s been a pleasure testing it out!

Thanks for reading!

Ria xx

This post is an entry for the BritMums #MyAquaphor Challenge, sponsored by Eucerin. Discover the benefits of Eucerin https://www.eucerin.co.uk/products/aquaphor/soothing-skin-balm-45ml

Meet The Mummy Journey… Guest Post!

Hi Everyone! I’m Amy, I’m 25 and live in Worcester with my beautiful daughter Eva, my boyfriend Sean and our cat Bella. I am so happy to be doing a guest post on Ria’s blog and to meet some new readers! I hope you all enjoy my Mum Tag! 

 

1. How old were you when you had your first child?

Eva is my first child and I had her when I was 25. 


2. What was the hardest thing about being pregnant for 9 months?

I suffered quite badly with SPD during my pregnancy and this made it very uncomfortable to walk, get out of bed, out of cars etc. I also had quite bad heart burn towards the end which made sleeping very hard. Other then that I loved pregnancy! 


3. Can you think of any good things you enjoyed during those 9 months?

My Bump! I really miss my bump and those little kicks. It is the most amazing feeling knowing there’s a little baby inside. I also felt the most confident about my body that I had in a while. 


4. In your opinion, were all the things you heard about childbirth accurate or way off?

I’m going to sound crazy but I really enjoyed my labour. I’m one of those annoying people that got everything they had planned for and everything went amazingly well. I agree with the pain side of things and also the pain after but I was very lucky to experience such a great birth.

5. Would you have handled childbirth differently if you could re-do it?

No. My birth was amazing. I think I have quite a good pain threshold too which made things ‘seem’ a lot easier. Plus I was only in labour for 2 hours.. I think I kind of got away with it this time. 


6. What would be your advice for someone who is about to have a baby?

Enjoy every second because time really does fly! An remember when your going through your bad times(like no sleep) uou’ll look back on it in a few weeks’ time and think how the hell did I get through that? But you just do! You’ll be amazing! 


7. What has been the hardest thing about being a mum?

I think for me in the beginning was the sleep. I’m someone who needs my sleep otherwise I can’t function and I’m an awful person to be around (poor Sean). I also think the lifestyle change. You constantly have to think about someone else. Like you can’t just run to the shop to pick up some milk. 


8. What has been the most rewarding thing about being a mum?

Her smile, her laughs, just looking at how happy she is and thinking me and her daddy are contributing to that. 


9. What was the most surprising thing you discovered about being a mum?

How little sleep I can actually survive on! As I’ve mentioned above, I’m someone who really needs there sleep! However, I feel now I’ve turned a corner and I’m not so much like that anymore. I think I’ve just got over the fact I’m not going to have a lay in for at least another 18 years! 


10. What is the best memory you have involving your child?

There are so many! One that sticks out for me is when I went into Eva in the morning and as soon as I opened the door she shouted ‘mama’ for the first time. 


11. What was the most exciting milestone?

Definitely crawling as I thought Eva was never going to crawl and she’d found her way around by shuffling on her bum. When she crawled across the room for the first time I jumped for joy and cried.


12. What is the worst thing your child has ever done?

I’d say the worst thing she’s ever done was roll off the bed (half my fault) and she had a bruise under her eye. She did this when she was about 6 months. Also an explosive poo in the bath.. gross! 


13. What habit did you wish your child didn’t have?

Throwing everything on the floor! In her high chair food goes on the floor, In the living room everything that’s on the coffee table gets thrown on the floor. 


14. What habit of theirs makes you most proud?

The way she claps herself when she’s proud! It melts my heart. 


15. Do you share any similarities with your child (both Physical and Personality)?

How she scrumples her nose when she laughs or smiles – I used to do this when I was a child. 


16. Where would you like your child to be in 10 years?

As long as she’s happy and healthy I don’t mind. I would like her to be surrounded by a lovely group of friends and just be enjoying life. 


17. What is something that having a child has taught you?

Patience and to have a calmer attitude towards situations. When you have a child nothing ever goes the way you planned so I’ve realised patience is key and the calmer you are the calmer and more chilled your child will be. Everyone always says that Eva is so chilled and easy going and I think that’s because me and Sean are ( him more so than me) But this is a skill I’ve had to learn along the way. Having children is such a huge learning experience. 


18. Did you imagine that you’d be a mom at the age that you became a mom?

Yes I did. I’m the same age as my mum was when she had me and I always knew I wanted the same kind of age gap. Just because me and my mum are so close and she honestly is my best friend!


19. Describe your child in a single sentence?

The most cheekiest, beautiful little button. 


20. How have you changed as a person since becoming a mum?

I’m more aware of everything around me, I plan more whereas before I was kind of just an in the moment type of person and quite spontaneous. I’m a lot more calmer and yes I would say that I am a lot less selfish. Everything I do is now for that little girl instead of just myself. I think a lot of mum’s can relate to that one. 

 If you want to get to know me a little better then I’ll leave the links below to all my socials. 

Thank you all for reading and I hope you enjoyed having Amy on my blog! If you want to read my answers then head to https://lifeasweknowit.uk/

Have a good day! Ria xx

 

Amy‘s links

Blog: https:www.amummyjourney.wordpress.com

Instagram: https:www.instagram.com/amy_greaves1

Youtube: https:www.youtube.com/TheMummyJourney

 

bakerdays… Letterbox Cake!!

Have you ever received a cake through your letterbox? Yes the flap on the front of your door that the postman usually pushes your letters through. Well as strange and as exciting as it may seem, this is actually a real thing.

(letterbox cake)

bakerdays kindly gifted me with a cake for Rayan’s birthday. Now being the cake lover that I am, I was more excited by the concept of a letterbox cake.

(Rayan’s birthday)

The process was simple, all they needed was my flavour choice, design, this could be one from their website or a personalised one of choice for any event and my address. They send a sample and once satisfied the order is then processed. True to form a cake arrived in the post.

(sample design)

As promised the cake was moist and the design was exactly like the sample they sent me.

(moist cake slice)

It’s safe to say I’m a big fan of cake through the letterbox so if you have any kind of event, occasion, a reason to celebrate or just simply want to eat cake then definitely check out bakerdays, they even do dairy and gluten free cakes.

Postpartum Body Struggles!

Before I delve into this post I just want to note that this is my truth. I understand that we should love our bodies as they’ve done great things by housing and keeping our babies safe but sometimes our minds tell us something different. I am truly grateful that I’m able to bear children and the way I feel about my body does not take away from the love that I have for my kids. Now that I’ve gotten that out the way let’s get into it.

I have never felt this self conscious about my body as I do now since having my second child. It’s taking a lot to actually pen this on paper and publish it publicly. After Naeem, my first born, I dropped so much weight. My belly was flat, my thighs were small even my ‘family arm’ as my sisters and I call it, was looking trimmed. I was the smallest I had ever been in my adult life. I felt so yummy, I was oozing confidence, I actually loved that you couldn’t tell I had just given birth.

1 month postpartum (Naeem)

That feeling of euphoria had put me into a false sense of security. When I got pregnant with Rayan, although unplanned I was happy and grateful for my little miracle. Again in this pregnancy I hadn’t put on much weight I was literally all bump. I actually feel sexy when I’m pregnant lol.

9 months pregnant (Naeem)

Anyway, so I anticipated the big postpartum loss like I had with Naeem. I planned how this time I was going to maintain it and stay looking yummy for longer.

So again I lost some weight but I noticed it wasn’t as drastic as the first time but I was thinking I’m sure breastfeeding will sort this out like it did the last time and the lack of sleep. That was literally my weight loss secret, breastfeeding on demand and sleep deprivation. Only this time it wasn’t as effective. Then after a while I started noticing that I was looking more plump. I was putting on weight around my upper body and face, I started to develop a bulge around my midriff. To be honest I just felt completely yuck! The complete opposite to what I expected to happen, so you can imagine how unimpressed I am by this weight gain.

I don’t take as many pics anymore. So here’s another pic of me feeling sexy whilst pregnant (Rayan)

What was worse was I had zero motivation to do anything about it. Instead of trying to sign up to the gym and changing my eating habit I was looking on real self and researching doctors and procedures. My state of mind on how I viewed myself got so bad that I was willing to go under the knife to fix it because I just didn’t feel like me.

I’m not going to lie I still haven’t completely ruled out surgery but I have decided to actually put effort in getting my body right naturally. After seeing a very recent pic of myself I knew I need change Now! So I’ve signed up to slimming world and I lost 4lbs in my first week yay me! And I’m truly enjoying it, I’ve just bought myself a Fitbit too (DM me on insta if you want to challenge me) and I plan to start gyming. I have free membership at work so it’s just a matter of getting up and going. Although I have taken on Rugby as a sport.

Another thing I should have mentioned is that being overweight runs in my family, I did well to shrug it off for many years but I’ve recently felt like it’s all catching up with me it’s in my genes so I have to be careful not to let myself go too far otherwise I could spiral into obesity. Diabetes also runs in my family and I had it in both my pregnancies so really and truly not only am I doing this for aesthetics and to feel good about myself but it’s also to avoid chronic health issues. I also want to get my body right so when I decide to have another child I do not want to have to be going to the diabetic clinic every 1-2 weeks and having to manage the condition.

I know a lot of mothers feel the same and all I can say is I understand but if you want it as hard as it is you have to get up and do it, I’m testimony to that. I also know a lot of other people will probably be thinking I need to love myself, stop being insecure or allowing social media and celebrities to influence how I feel about myself, blah blah blah. This is genuinely not to do with social pressures but how I feel about myself, I want clothes to sit right on me, I don’t want a bulge or FUPA even if Beyoncé is loving hers kudos to her. I want to feel confident again being naked and in my own skin and the only way I will is by taking action which I have. It’s all good and well complaining about it but if I don’t do anything about it then It’s just going to stay like that.

For those mothers who do feel the same way I do, just know you’re not alone you can do it if you will it. What I’ll start doing is a slimming world weekly diary blog post for anyone that wants to join me on my journey. You can also follow my slimming world Instagram page for daily updates.

This post is a Mother Hen Club post you can find Mother Hen on instagram so head over and give them a follow. For more information click on the link https://expertpaservices.lpages.co/mother-hen-club/ xx

Back To The City – Maternity Over!

13 August 2018 that’s the day I returned to the city. The day I kissed my babies goodbye until I kissed them hello again 10 hours later. I walked out & I felt… relieved! I know that may sound awful but I’m being honest about my feelings. I’m not used to being out of work for so long. Even after Naeem I went back a lot sooner. By the way this is not to say I didn’t miss them, I was just glad to get up in the morning with an agenda, put some clothes on, put make up on, actually interact with other humans around my age and quite frankly make money. I’m sure I’ve told you in one of my previous posts that I’m a contractor, so if I don’t work, I don’t get paid.

So today marks four weeks since I started and I’m still enjoying being a working mum. It feels good coming home and seeing their cute little faces greeting me at the door. It’s nice getting back to normality and really appreciating the weekends.

Maternity leave can really put you in a bubble and if you’re anything like me it’s a very repetitive bubble. I would literally wake up, give the kids breakfast, watch endless episodes of Peppa pig or the new fave, Ben & Holly, eat lunch watch more episodes. It was a continuous cycle day in day out.

It wasn’t until I was about to go back to work when I decided to go to one of the local parks in my area, a park I never knew existed. I met a lovely fellow mum of two and we arranged a play date a few days later. We had a lovely picnic in another park and it felt good. Interacting with an adult whilst our kids ran around together. At that moment I contemplated being a stay at home mum.

So although I’m loving having some baby free time during the day, it’s still bittersweet. As much as some people may find my feelings a little controversial I’m only saying what most mum’s are thinking. Im a firm believer of ‘not just a mum’ we also have our own identity so don’t feel guilty for enjoying a bit of time away from the kids or wanting to do something other than just mothering all day.

So, about returning to the city, I feel great. I’m able to provide for my kids whilst enjoying a bit of a breather and I don’t love them any less in fact it’s true what they say, absence makes the heart fonder!

I’ve collaborated with a few other lovely mummies Rachael, Lucy and Laura so click on their names and head over to their page to read their thoughts on going back to work.

I’m now a Mother Hen whoop whoop and this post is a Mother Hen Club post you can find Mother Hen on instagram so head over and give them a follow. For more information click on the link https://expertpaservices.lpages.co/mother-hen-club/ xx

Naeem’s Adventure with Paw Patrol!

Hey guys! How amazing are penwizard for gifting Naeem with his very own personalised book?

This morning I heard my buzzer ring, the postman said I had a delivery, I was racking my brain thinking I didn’t order anything then it hit me, ‘ahhh Naeem’s book’ I got all excited to open the package. You would think the gift was for me.

How beautiful is this book please? I love the fact that it weren’t a one character fits all and I was able to personalise the little boy to somewhat resemble my son. I had the option to choose the hair colour and style, skin and eye colour. I also had the choice of what colour t-shirt he wore, whether the character wore glasses and the gender. The process was incredibly simple.

I mean I do believe the range could be slightly more diverse and there is room for improvement for the characters to look more like the kids but it’s definitely a good effort, I’m not mad and it’s an animation after all.

The essence of the story is that it’s Naeem’s birthday and he’s invited to spend time with with the Paw Patrol when his trike breaks down. This leads them onto an adventure to fix Naeem’s Super trike.

The story is written in simple plain English for little kids to understand. One thing I really enjoyed was how exciting the adventure was and the fact that Naeem could relate to his character. I loved the way his little face lit up and said “me” every time he heard his name.

The book is neither too long nor too short and is just the right length for young kids. The bright colours really attracts children’s attention.

I genuinely think this is a great present idea for young kids as the adventure is set on the child’s birthday.

Thankfully I was able to hook you, my lovely readers with a 10% off discount code: PAW10 so if you wish to get this book for your child or a gift for a Paw Patrol fan then I’d suggest you head over to Penwizard to personalise the book and don’t forget to use the code above to knock off some change.

Don’t say I don’t let you in on the goodies 🙂

Ria xx

The 4th Trimester, the things they don’t tell you about after you’ve given birth.

You’re probably thinking what on earth am I talking about, we’re only told about 3 trimesters. That’s the the thing, no one tells us about the after birth affects but don’t worry, I’m here to spill the tea.

So I’ve just given birth to my 1st, in a somewhat calm and controlled manner (nothing like Rayan’s eventful delivery) and I’m just enjoying a moment with him on my chest, he came surprisingly clean not like how the babies look on one born every minute with all that gunk on them, he actually looked like he had a shower before meeting me.

Anyway I did a bit of delayed cord clamping, something I researched and thought would be cool to do apparently there are benefits for doing it. After some time my husband was called to cut the cord then I was asked to deliver my placenta. Honestly you read right, I actually had to go through the process of pushing, then pausing and then panting, basically everything I just did to give birth to my baby, I had to do again for my placenta to come out. To be honest after delivering a mini human, delivering a placenta isn’t bad at all in comparison.

After everything was out, baby & placenta they then asked if I wanted pain relief before they examined me to make sure everything that was meant to be out was out and to check for any tearing or grazes. So me being the naive first time mum that I was I said yes. I was taken by surprise when she shoved a tablet up my back passage. I mean why had I never heard about this? I had a little graze which she put a little triple stitch in and I was good.

That was all done, I slept for a bit, got cleaned up then I was wheeled to the postnatal ward. On the ward a midwife assistant came around with the drug cart asking everyone if they wanted painkillers, I was surprisingly fine so I said no. I didn’t know what was ahead that’s why otherwise I would’ve been smart and taken some. Fortunately for me my babies manage to latch straight away with no problems. So that’s how I realised quickly why the lady was going around with the cart like a drug dealer. The pain I felt in my stomach every time Naeem was feeding, was like labour all over again, they said it was ‘good’ pain, it meant my uterus was contracting, which should help my tummy go down quicker. I soon called the shotter back to deal me some painkillers. I did not read this in any of the books, nor was I told about this after pain at antenatal classes. Heck even my so called friends and family couldn’t give me a heads up. And did you know, it gets worse with every child.

See this next bit I kinda had an incline, I heard loads of people talk about the 1st time you go to the toilet after giving birth. Because of all the horror stories I heard, I was mentally prepared for it to be one of the worst things ever but do you know what? I was actually fine, as long as you pour water at the same time as you wee it should dilute it and not sting so bad so there’s a hack for you. However if you’ve torn your perineum, that bit between your mini and your bum then you may want to pee whilst laying in a tub of water. You might think that’s gross but I’d rather do that than go through agony after just giving birth. Another thing I’ve heard about ladies who’ve either teared or had episiotomy which is when they cut your perineum that bit between your mini and bum, apparently doing a number 2 is no joke but they encourage women to go as many get constipated because they avoid going through fear. I can’t really comment about this but I’d research it before labour if I were you, in case their are hacks out there to ease your journey easing lol and you never know it may not be as bad as you think.

Another thing is how society tells you to feel after you have your baby. They make it seem like it’s all rainbows and unicorns. The reality is not every body feels like that and it’s ok. I mean I was happy and I did love my baby but I didn’t have that overwhelming feeling of love that comes gushing out as it’s depicted, I didn’t cry uncontrollably, I believe my love grew as the days went on. What I’m saying is don’t beat yourself up if it doesn’t feel like love at first sight. You’re not not normal, you’re human and everyone’s emotions and hormones work different. I have a friend who wanted nothing to do with her baby when she was first born, she was still in a state of shock from the traumatic delivery but now her daughter is a little madam and they’re like best friends. The affection isn’t always instant and that’s fine, trust me when I tell you, you are not alone.

So the cat’s out the bag now ladies. I didn’t write these things to scare anyone from having kids, I just believe that things are better when one is informed and expectations are managed. With all my experiences I’d still go again because it’s all worth it in the end.